So when there's a video I would like to take you through a little exercise.
This is more of a self awareness exercise right.
I would like to show you how.
What you focus on in life you feel because then I'll ask really Your I've said some pretty controversial
words dentate which may or may not have triggers some kind of emotional response in you know you might
be seeing Cain and you turning this course off and going to send you some hit me right now or you might
be thinking well no I'm actually really serious about becoming a life coach and to be honest with you
if I'm not yet able to manage my emotions from a video that Homer going to manage my emotions when I'm
interacting with real people.
And I would be a very wise thing to consider So in this video but I really want to do is help you to
see and identify who it's true.
What you focus on in life you feel.
No there's no one else or nothing else in the world that can make you feel anything.
I remember there's no such thing as a intention so no one's waking up in the morning with the intentions
and hurting your feelings.
People are just going about their daily lives and doing the best they can with what they've got.
Trying to make their own way in the world so is absolutely crucial for us to build our life.
It's kind of a shock proof if you like and how we do this is through developing this degree of self
awareness because if we develop self awareness we can develop self control.
This is a choice of maturity and character that I'm going to be sharing with you shortly.
And that is a fascinating video.
So what you focus on you feel for this video.
If you are somewhere where there's external stuff going on in noise or traffic or people you're on public
transport or you're listening to me in a car or something like that.
And where are you to turn me off right now and come back to this video some other time when you're not
distracted by anything else.
But if you're are on your own.
Our home or somewhere where there's just you know the distractions.
I'm not going to ask you just to focus in on my voice and what I'm saying.
Right.
This exercise might feel a little bit hypnotic.
Try and see.
More of an any or exercise if you like it.
I think into the course for your benefit so you can understand what I'm talking about here.
You know in the last film you give me I mean I've had some emotional responses.
And you are most likely going to have an emotional response to what this is all about to see here.
But what I want to demonstrate through this video is that is that I'm not physically able to make you
feel anything.
Right.
I physically can do that.
I am able to say some words and I am able to influence your thinking.
But I am not able to influence your emotions.
You're either in complete control of them or you're not.
If you are not in control of your emotions you're most likely then going to believe that as everyone
else is making you feel a certain way when you are in control.
Congratulations you're maturing in life.
Mature people understand that they cannot be influenced by anyone.
They don't choose to be influenced by what he saw.
That's their search for a word if you like are they going to ask you to do here.
No am going to ask you to for a moment for a few moments just close your eyes and focus in on your breathing.
Whenever you're asked just close your eyes and focus on your breathing.
No.
What I'm going to ask you to do is reflect back.
Think back to the past to an event or a situation in your life that really hurts here.
This day was a sad sad day.
He may have been hurt.
He may have felt rejected.
He may have felt cheated on or really let down.
You may even feel like you were very unfairly treated.
What I want you to focus on is what was going on that day.
Who was there who wasn't there.
What was being said what was being said.
But most importantly how you were feeling.
And if you could give that feeling and name or with that name be.
And once you've given that feeling an IM.
I was going to ask you to sit with it.
For a few more moments.
For coming back to the room.
Opening your eyes shaking yourself off and there and focussing back on me again.
No what I've just done there is if you forward that exercise through I've asked you to close your eyes
and you've just gone you have shifted your focus from off of me onto my voice and on inside of you.
So your focus has just gone from that extra hour to the internal And as that happens as you forward
my voice if you just follow the exercise through you most likely will have thought about or remembered
something that happened to you in the past that you didn't like too much and then you have given this
thing you did lay too much which could have been in the motion.
Name this name rated donlen You course learning log.
All right.
Just for a second because no we're going to go through the whole process again from a slightly different
angle.
All right.
So this time round what I'm going to ask you to do is just close your eyes and go back into that place
except this time it's a different place.
This thing what I'm going to ask you to do is go back to the past inside your mind's eye and think back
to one of the most rewarding for fehling Exciting days if you are life.
You can't remember what was going on you can remember who was there.
You might even be it to be see in the picture quite quite clearly.
You're a member.
How you are feeling.
Now I'm going to ask you to focus in on that feeling.
One of the best days of your life.
If there's one event you'll just remember on into the future.
This is ettes.
Focus on who is there what was being said what was being said.
And as you focus in on how you're feeling.
Give this feeling unnamed.
Might take a few moments to get accurate on exactly what the feeling is.
Oh once you have given this feeling an M..
Just stay with that for a few more moments.
And then come back from a voice.
Open your eyes come back to the room.
Exercise or give yourself a shake off.
No what just happened there.
If you actually followed my voice and followed that exercise within a few more minutes you will just
have stepped from a negative emotion or state into a positive motional state.
No I didn't make you do this.
I'm physically incapable of making you do that.
What I did up in the OP was I said some words that just simply influenced you that led you in this place
and save your mind's eye to thinking about things that you may know off about for quite some time.
So with that being said you've leffew been left with these two words too.
Most likely quite different contrasting words.
Which is which is all.
No for illustration purposes and just to summarize this whole exercise I just really want to show you
that this is what all people are doing all the time every single day.
This step of negative emotions if the step into negative abortion stand for too long they're going to
see this has been a problem.
But what I want to show you here of what I have wilfully Shawn here is that it's possible for people
to step out of their problem emotional states just as easily as what they initially stepped into it.
And they do this through simply changing their focus.
So if you want to go life coaching or into the future this is a really powerful exercise that you can
integrate into your practice just to help get people into that place where you've got their attention.
You've got their focus and you've got them out of whatever previous negative place that they brought
to you and came to you and that made sense.
So explain all of this more of the next video.
Look forward to seeing you again soon.